If you’re anything like me as soon as you read the title you started singing…You are not alone, I am here with you…
The truth is I’m not. I’m not there with you but I am in this single mom thing with you. I know that the holidays can be difficult as a single parent. Speaking from my space, and my truth, it is hard at times watching happy families post their photos with Santa in matching mom, dad, children outfits. It is hard to relate when friends complain about doing all of the Christmas shopping because I don’t have someone to share that responsibility with.
Then we get past all of the nobody to kiss on NYE to get smacked in the face with countless ads on what to get our significant others on Valentine’s Day. You are not alone. I am here with you. I even get pitches from brands in my inbox about perfect gifts for my husband! Um, did you not realize that you’re emailing a single mom blogger that blogs about being a single mom?
I get it. It is very, very easy to fall into a slump this time of year. You might start hearing all of those insecurities you try forgetting whispering to you in the wind. Well, I’m here to tell you KNOCK IT OFF. Snap out of it. Look yourself in the mirror and remember your magic. We are alone but that doesn’t mean we have to be lonely.
I’ve never been huge on Valentine’s Day. Too commercial for me but I do enjoy sharing and showing love. Remember that as parents we are LOVE. We breathe love daily and should not allow anyone to make us feel less than. If you’re dating then go for it. Who cares if you go on a first date on Valentine’s Day? Have fun. If you don’t have a date for the night who cares. Grab some friends and enjoy the day.
I’m getting together with a group of friends tomorrow to have heart-shaped pizza and wine! Now, that’s amore! Don’t feel like going out because it is mid-week? I don’t blame you. I rarely want to leave the comfort of my own home. Let the kids stay up late, bake some cupcakes, pop some popcorn and have a movie night.
Remember this. It is your life. You are responsible for your happy. Not Hallmark, not match.com, not anyone but you. And yes, you have the right to feel lonely at times but don’t stay there. Remember you are not alone. There are many of us that are in similar situations. If we stay stuck in our lonely spots then we will end up alone!